The truth is you can't buy happiness because happiness really isn't for sale. I believe the formula for genuine happiness is being generous of spirit and being able to count on others, plus focusing on what you have -- not on what you don't have.
In the search for happiness, we often look to others to make us happy. Then when we find ourselves anything less than pleased, we play the blame game and hold them responsible for the cause of our feelings. However, only we can be held accountable for our own happiness because only we have the power to change the situation we are in.
Happiness is an emotion, and just like any emotion, it comes and goes. Also like any emotion, some people simply seem to experience it more than others. Is it expectations we have on how life should be?Our relationships with our loved ones have a considerable effect on our level of happiness.
When it comes to achieving happiness I think it is important not to forget the small stuff. Stop concentrating on being happy, you may just miss out on whats right under your nose or right in front of you.Appreciate the little things in life. Learn to love and forgive.As long as you have anger, bitterness or hatred against somebody they will always have the power over you. Do not become a slave to this somebody or allow them any more time to enter your mind freely.Forgiving doesn't mean you will not be smart enough to be on guard to dealing with that person again.It is nearly impossible for some people to say "I forgive" The hurt and pain will not allow and the hurt and pain does not vanish once you say those words. The hurt and pain will remain until you free yourself from it.I believe people who do not forgive feel they have the power to punish those that hurt them. Who do you think suffers more in this situation you or the enemy?
Can we really make ourselves happier? It certainly can't hurt to try!
PLUS being happy has a lot more benefits than being unhappy.
You will live longer. Are more likely to help other and that in it self may attract people into your life. I believe you cope better with difficult situations and you will have better judgement about things.
Look at those things that made you unhappy or those people that caused you pain as being a lesson in life. Deal with it, dust yourself off, get up and start again.
I think we should count our blessings, really count our blessings and be conscious what we really have under our nose.